Open letters / letters to the editor

Dear Taos News,

Victor is no longer with us to have a voice and provide his side of the story but that doesn't mean that he should be made to sound like the abuser. Especially considering that there were two children involved as the silent victims in this story. My point being is, it is not a one-sided open-and-closed story.

We as a family are still processing our grief, but very disappointed and feel like our judicial system failed us. The Judge allowed release without so much as bail for Josie. In 2020 she was also considered a low threat level and was offered the Pre-Prosecution Diversion program, for the exact same offense (stabbing Victor, in the presence of their children), and not even one year later she stabs him yet again, only this time taking his life in front of his children. Obviously we are not happy with this outcome, and have very little faith in our system. We feel like this is with little consideration for our family and more importantly his children who are witness to what occurred.

Josie has DUIs on record, and for the evening in question law enforcement found an open container in her vehicle, yet law enforcement doesn't conduct a sobriety test or blood work to assess her alcohol levels, this was completely overlooked by the Judge and down played by the District Attorney's Office. This is where we as a community and family expect more from law enforcement, our judicial system and our media.

We reach out because yes Victor is our family, but also because we saw the abuse for years. He would come to family gatherings with scratches on his face and neck, bruises, and even black eyes occasionally. She would mentally abuse him, tell him he was nothing, that nobody cared about him, that nobody loved him and she used classic abuser tactics of separating from his family and friends.

He was the victim of domestic violence and we are well aware that laws with good intent have been designed to protect the female victims, but Victor was a victim and we hope to be the voice he couldn't bring himself to be because by society standards it made him a weaker person or by default, as your article suggests, the provoker of the abuse, the root cause of the reaction.

We ask that you consider writing an article about the victims in this tragedy (Victor and his children). In 2013 Children witnessed 6,825 of the domestic violence reported to law enforcement. 1-3 women and 1-4 men in the United States have experienced some form of intimate physical violence. Intimate partner crime accounts for 15 percent of all violent crime.

In areas where domestic violence deaths are recorded, such as Jamaica, the number of male deaths exceed female deaths by as much as 60 percent depending on the year. We as a family will seek Justice for Victor yes, and hope to not let his death be in vain, we hope to bring awareness to the community about men also being victims of domestic violence. If we can save even one man we will consider it a win.

Thank you for taking the time to read this and we look forward to reading your next article.

Sincerely,

Victor's family

Taos

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